The Five Love Languages

Notes vs Hugs

I like to receive encouraging or affirming notes.

I like to be hugged.

Time vs Helps

I like to spend one-on-one time with a person who is special to me.

I feel loved when someone gives me practical help.

Gifts vs Visits

I like it when people give me gifts.

I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones.

1 out of 10

Do things vs Reassurance

I feel loved when people do things to help me.

I feel loved when people give me a reassuring hand shake or hug.

Travel vs Physical

I like to go places with friends or loved ones.

I like to high-five or hold hands with people who are special to me.

Arms vs Gifts

I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts their arm around me.

I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I admire or love.

2 out of 10

Symbols vs Affirmation

Visible symbols of love (such as gifts) are important to me.

I feel loved when people affirm me.

Closeness vs Praise

I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around.

I like it when people tell me I’m attractive/handsome.

Time vs Gifts

I like to spend time with friends and loved ones.

I like to receive gifts from friends and loved ones.

3 out of 10

Acceptance vs Helpfulness

Words of acceptance are important to me.

I know someone loves me when he or she helps me.

Time together vs Spoken words

I like being together and doing things with friends and loved ones.

I like it when kind words are spoken to me.

Physical affection vs Hugs

What someone does affects me more than what they say.

Hugs make me feel connected and valued.

4 out of 10

Praise vs Gift

I value praise and try to avoid criticism.

Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift.

Time vs Physical

I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together.

I feel closer to friends and loved ones when we hug or shake hands.

Compliment vs Effort

I like for people to compliment my achievements.

I know people love me when they do things for me they don’t enjoy doing.

5 out of 10

Physical touch vs Effort

I feel secure when a special person is physically close to me.

Acts of service make me feel loved.

Effort vs Gifts

I appreciate the many things that special people do for me.

I like receiving gifts that special people make for me.

Attention vs Act of service

I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone gives me undivided attention.

I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone does an act of service for me.

6 out of 10

Physical touch vs Interest

I like physical touch from friends and loved ones when I’m around them.

I like when people listen to me and show genuine interest in what I’m saying.

Effort vs Gift

I feel loved when friends and loved ones help me with jobs or projects.

I really enjoy receiving gifts from friends and loved ones.

Compliment vs Time

I like for people to compliment my appearance.

I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings.

7 out of 10

Daily tasks vs Extended trips

I like knowing loved ones are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks.

I enjoy extended trips with someone who is special to me.

Physical affections vs Gifts

I don’t mind physical affection from friends I am close to.

Receiving a gift given for no special reason excites me.

Appreciation vs Eye contact

I like to be told that I am appreciated.

I like for a person to look at me when we are talking.

8 out of 10

Gift vs Meaningful words

I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with a gift.

I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with meaningful words.

Gift vs Tasks

I know a person is thinking of me when they give me a gift.

I feel loved when a person helps me with my chores or tasks.

Listening time vs Tasks

I appreciate it when someone listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me.

I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift.

9 out of 10

Gifts vs Physical touches

Gifts from a friend or loved one are always special to me.

I feel good when a friend or loved one hugs or touches me.

Help vs Appreciation

I feel loved when a person enthusiastically does some task I have requested.

I feel loved when I am told how much I am appreciated.

Daily physical contact vs Daily affirmation

I need physical contact with people every day.

I need words of encouragement and affirmation every day.

10 out of 10